So we can look around this world and
see millions of people matched with someone else, but do we really need that
other person? Do we really need friends to hang out with, friends to share our
lives with? So many people feel that they need to be with someone because they
feel they don’t want to be alone in this world, they can’t imagine a life
without a relationship. I honestly believe his is pretty sad, and it brings
this sadness into play. I am not saying I am not one of those
people, but I have been without people for a long time. Like I have said in
earlier posts I have trust issues, and that plays a big part in who I hang
around with. After sitting around feeling pity for myself, I realized that I
don’t need anyone; I think it’s wrong that we let our feelings rule over us. I
am not saying I don’t want the friends that I still have, but it makes no sense
to me to rush into another relationship just because I am feeling lonely or
that I don’t know what it is like to be single. You see I already have what I
need, and that is God. Again I am not saying I don’t want to be in a
relationship, or have friends, but I am in the greatest relationship I will
ever have in my life and that is with God.1 Corinthians 7:32-35 “I want you to be free from anxieties. The
unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord.
But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife and
his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious
about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the
married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say
this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote
good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.” So does this
mean you are supposed to be single the rest of your life? I don’t believe that
this is what it means. I believe it is simply stating that your relationship
with God needs to be first and that having these distractions like marriage can
possibly get in the way of that. If you aren’t doing what is right by God in a
relationship than clearly your relationship with Him has fallen apart. In
Romans 12:4 Paul uses the concept of the human body to show how Christians
should live and work together. Romans
12:4-5 “For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these
members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form
one body, and each member belongs to all the others.” So this clearly says
that we as humans are connected, and that we should work together. This could
be called fellowship. So what if I decided to not be around people in my daily
life because believe it or not friends can steer you away from God as well? I
mean when I have to I would communicate, help, and work with them. But would it
be so wrong for me to lose faith in the people around me, that I would walk
away, and just follow Jesus? There are so many times where I just reached out
there and got this bad idea of what people are really like. It’s like fishing
you put the bate (Heart) on your hook and you throw it out there. Now you don’t
really know what you will get maybe you will get this great big fish (A Person
that you can trust) or maybe you just get an old tire (Someone that will hurt
you). I guess I can really play both points of this it’s good to have people in
your life, and it’s good to be single for God. This month I don’t know what I
am after. I know in the first month of the year I learned that God works in our
lives, and how much God really loves us. I learned that when you lose what you
had that every day is a day of renewal. I learned that finding people that care
about you and want to hang out with them are hard to find, but I guess I am going to
try this whole single thing. In a way it’s kind of like living solely off the
land, and if you run into someone you talk but that is about it. God is my
friend, he is the one I can share with, he is the one I can laugh with, and cry
with. God is the one I can love; He is the one I can trust. God is my
everything. Here is to being single this month (without relationships). 1 Corinthians 7:8 “To
the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as
I am”
And all of the animals can breath on their own, And I can speak for myself, So you can let go. I’ve turned my back, She continues to stare, What are you looking at? I ask. There is nothing left to in the tank. All of my love has been spent, And I have nothing left to give. I was looking at what I had she replies. Have you noticed what is gone? It’s not just happiness, It’s all of are drugs, We used them all, We lost are love, It’s all gone, All used up. And all of the animals can run free, And I can finally be me, I loved you, but I must leave, So take your lonely hands off of me. And don’t look at me with your sad eyes, And I know longer want to hear your sad song. Because you made this come to be, So stop pretending that you can breath, And don’t act like you can speak for yourself. Because you were so far from who you really are. It was all just something you said.
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We often tend to forget that sometimes, being single can be a great gift. During my hiatus from dating, I focused on learning what it was really like to fall in love with God and be in a relationship with Him, instead of having a guy in between me and Him. I learned so much and in turn became far more confident in who I was because I knew how God felt about me.
When my first relationship out of that hiatus ended, much to my surprise, I was actually excited to be single. It meant a return to that time with just God and I, and a chance to do the things I wanted to do without having to worry about someone else.
We tend to overlook how important it is to be happy just ourselves before we get into a relationship.
But anyways, getting to the point I am trying to make -- enjoy this time on your own -- use it to grow closer to God, and I would encourage you to ask God to reveal to you who you are in His eyes -- you'll be amazed at how much you come out of this month of singleness with :)